... I have a relatively arrogant attitude about my ability to handle/figure out/strategize issues surrounding the J-man. Now, that doesn't mean I am always right... or that I have any of the right answers.... or that I do any of it right..... but I do have an unparalleled faith in my ability to do something. I am a researching fiend. I over-think everything to the Nth degree. And I can and will make some decision and then go forth and (for ill or good) confidently set forth on a path...
I am paralyzed with indecision. I am mystified with what to do. I don't even really know how to start, where to start, and if to start.
And what has me in such a twisted state??
Potty training. Toilet learning. Dumping the diaper. I'm a Big Kid now...
I hate the toilet. Hate it.
Yes, yes. J-man is not potty trained. Not even close. Not even in the same zip code. In fact, dare I say he is actually repelled by the idea of even sitting on the toilet?? I promise you... J-man doesn't give a rat's *ss about being a Big Kid.
Now, don't get me wrong: I have done my homework. I have now read three books on potty training, one of which even pertained to special needs kids. I have read a number of websites, talked to numerous friends, and even watched a DVD on the topic. I have purchased two potty chairs and two kid sized toilet seats. We own Elmo's Potty Time. Today I was pursuing Amazon.com to find a potty doll and mini potty chair for demos (even though I think it would be a waste of time/money... because unless the doll is Batman or Superman, he isn't going to care if it pees in the potty). We even decorated the toilet area just for the J-man:
(He loves it. Still doesn't mean he will sit on the toilet)
But I just can't pull the trigger on actually starting the process.
In part because I don't even know how to begin with him...
You see... while he likes stickers and M&Ms, he doesn't love them enough to actually sit on a toilet and try and pee for one. And earning a sticker on a chart isn't exactly exciting for him. Bigger presents might... might.... work in a very isolated "get him to sit there for 30 seconds" kind of way, but overall is impractical in the long run. He isn't overly excited about praise from us.... or being like the other kids.... and diapers just don't bother him. At all. And while I do think that he has a basic understanding of the whole "potty" thing, it is hard to know because he so completely wants nothing to do with it that I can't really tell if he gets it or not.
And maybe he isn't ready...
.... but he is FOUR.
Four and not even started down the path to being potty trained.
And I am at a complete loss for what to do now!!! I feel like waiting is a bad idea...but failing seems like a worse idea.... and how to do it is a complete mystery to me (potty parties vs scheduled pee-time vs naked baby vs sticker charts vs cold-turkey-on-diapers vs etc etc etc etc etc).
In the next couple of months I will have a lot of time to actually devote to this (going through a significant reduction in work hours a la partial layoff... yah me), so I feel this THIS IS IT. Time to do it. The universe has spoken.
But J-man isn't listening (nothing new there) and I don't know how to get through. Or even get unstuck.