|IEP Alert Level: HIGH|
So. IEP meeting today.
To discuss getting a few more hours of teacher time. A little more time. To give J-man what he needs to be successful. To .... hmmm..... try harder.
I can't go into details right now. Needless to say, though, it did not go well.
Here is what I can tell you. No one believes in J-man but us. No one is willing to have faith in him, that he can succeed where he is. One of the school district "team" members even had the nerve to say to me "What... do you want him to fail???"
Excuse me?? EXCUSE ME???
So here is my response to you, "team" member.
Why do you assume that he will fail? Why, when the question of where he needs service, and what kind of service it is, do you assume he cannot succeed where he is? Why do you have no faith in the ability of a well-crafted plan and a devoted team of people? If we provide what is appropriate, why do you assume he can't?
This is starting to become a fundamental issue that I am noticing: The focus on deficit instead of potential. The focus on everything that is wrong or bad or disordered instead of what is possible, on strengths, and on rising to the occassion. You know, if you have low enough expectations, you can always meet them. But we insist on high expectations, and apparently that is a problem. Oh, and that we are involved, that we have opinions that differ, and expectations for performance.
Update: Title Change
My dear friend JK emailed me after I posted and took exception to my title "Faithless". She said (in part) the following:
...I found the title of your writing interesting because in my eyes, it is "faithful". Faithful to the fight and to the life and future of your son. Don't give those who are say ignorant and negative things that much power, credit or even a headline. Shout it from the top of your lungs how much you love and adore your son and how every inch of him is worth any frustration coming your way. I can't imagine your frustration, but you will prevail. You've never given yourself the option not to.....
You are most certainly right, JK. Title changed, and negativity will never get top billing again! Thanks, I needed that gut check :)