Friday, August 27, 2010
We are starting to work on improving J-man's interaction skills.
As pretty much every parent in our position probably does, I am reading books. Lots of books about building interaction, language delays, etc. The current manual: Play to Talk by James MacDonald and Pam Stoika. I am only 60 pages in, but so far I can give it two big thumbs UP. Without spending large amounts of time explaining the program, let me just say that right now the current take-home message I am getting is that I need to chill out and simplify simplify simplify.
So that is what I did today. Chilled out and simplified.
And we have had a brilliant day! I wish I could tell you all the ins and outs, but I can't articulate it. Now, don't get me wrong: J-man was as much of a butt head than he always is. But he was more present. I was more present. The overall tone of interaction improved. There was MORE.
For example, J-man was in the tub this evening, chattering away to himself in his Martian talk while I putzed around getting his jammies ready. I walked up the stairs and stopped a couple of steps away from the top, perched my face on the top stair and was watching him in the tub. No words, no mom-in-his-face, just simply present. Then J-man looked up, caught me watching him, and calmly said " Hi Momma".
Allow me to repeat that. He said "Hi Momma".
I was stunned. I said " Hi Jonathan".
He repeated "Hi Momma".
And he went back to playing. Let me tell you, I can honestly say I have never heard him greet me like that. Genuine, real, not prompted. I can't help but get choked up about it.
Yep, two thumbs up Dr. MacDonald.
Two BIG Thumbs Up.